Stop Striving For Perfection

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How many of us are trying to live up to the Superwoman trope and feel like we’re failing?

If you are anything like me, you are trying to do everything, be everything, and failing under the impossibility of it. Striving to be perfect in every aspect of life in wearing us down. Fighting for perfection is demoralizing instead of uplifting. I spend so much time lately feeling stressed and overwhelmed, and I realize it’s because I’m not superhuman.  I wear a lot of hats and juggle a ton of responsibilities on any given day.

I’m a wife, a mom, a daughter, a friend, a blogger, a freelance writer & consultant, president of a non-for-profit, captain of a volunteer fire department, a small business owner/Etsy seller, and co-manager of an online community.

On top of all those responsibilities, I tend to all of the usual day-to-day crap like laundry, exercise, bills, appointments, etc. My plate is filled past capacity at all times. I attempt to give 100% to every area of my life, but there is just not enough of me. I want to flourish in so many areas of life and often tell myself there is always more to do.

The thing is that by pushing myself to be perfect at so many things at once, I end up doing pretty shitty at everything. I recognize this as it’s happening which leads to further disappointment. I’m damaging myself mentally and emotionally.

Aiming for perfection is leaving us broken and hollow.

Slowly, I’m coming to this realization. Even when I set reasonable goals, I cannot possibly do it all. However, I am not the only person incapable of achieving this. We spend so much time comparing ourselves to people whom we idolize for “having it all together.” Just like me, just like you, they are struggling under the same weight of false perfection.

All I can do, all any of us can do, is work toward progress. Be careful not to cross the fine line between seeking improvement and seeking perfection.

So, here are some things I want you to know-

  • You are good enough.
  • It is okay to make mistakes and to fail.
  • There is only so much time in a day, so it’s alright if you aren’t massively productive every day.
  • Forgive yourself for your shortcomings and realize you are a human, not Superwoman.
  • It is okay to break down, and it’s okay to cry.
  • Stop telling yourself that you aren’t enough because you are so much better than that.
  • Passion is more important than perfection, every time.
  • Take time to press pause and care for yourself when you need it.
  • You are a good parent, partner, & friend even without being perfect.
  • Stop comparing yourself to others, and realize how valuable being yourself is.
  • Gauge your success on your progress, NOT perfection.
  • It is okay not to do your very best every single time.

Now, let go of the pursuit of perfection and enjoy the pursuit of happiness.



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